Change is a Gradual, inconsistent process.
When we’re looking for a healer, it may feel like it’s not the right timing, or “they didn’t do anything.” Our individual readiness for change as well as the professional relationship are very important factors in determining when and how change occurs.
Change is a process and involves countless variables. In order for HSPs, Neurodiverse, Emotionally Intense, or differently wired people to feel preparared to change, sometimes an additional stage of seed planting is involved. And this stage is about being accepted, understood, given space to be intense while sorting things out. Sometimes "nothing happens" in therapy or with a coach because a client's readiness for change is premature. Working with and being okay with "not doing anything" is part of motivational interviewing, a skillset that is heavily used in coaching, therapy, and addiction treatment. People deserve to be seen as they are, and when we have an agenda to "hurry up" and change, it can make it more difficult to maintain, it can actually lead to prolonged resistance of floating, or choosing something for the sake of taking action.
IMPORTANT NOTES:
There are 5 stages of change that we bounce around with. Understanding the cerebral, emotional parts of deciding to make change is as important as the “action phases” of change.
If a healer is pushing their own agenda, this can cause resistance and additional “stuckness” or regression.
Part of change is being seen for your circumstances, choices, outcome possibilities, and being okay with not being forced to make a decision.
Planting seeds and going at YOUR PACE is an essential skill for a healer to support effective change.
Differently wired, sensitive, and creative people may need additional time and compassion to be seen before they can take develop faith to take leaps into the unknown.
As always, therapists work with mental health conditions, so they are best prepared to help in this realm of life, as well as other areas of focus or specialty.
Coaches can help with personal development, can screen for mental health needs, and make appropriate referrals as needed. Coaches may touch a person’s history, but the primary focus is on the present with short-term goals using motivational interviewing and additional methods. I use archetypes and typology systems while teaching clients about the stages of change with a therapy-informed lens.
Acknowledge stuckness and your readiness for change. A good-fit healer can help honor this with you. I am a life coach and would love to help you with any short term goals you may have. Relationships, career, life planning, please contact me to see how I can help. organizedmesses@gmail.com
