I read comments on viral videos to get a feel for how the general public views groups of people, especially gamers and creatives. I made this video to share my perspective and appreciation for someone who is as committed and focused to do something like this.
Importance of Early Education & Preschool
Preschool isn't just playing or babysitting. It affects brain development, readiness for learning, social skills, trust in adults, trust in their environment to explore, to try again, creative exploration which feeds into analytical problem solving skills, confidence in themselves to make mistakes, knowing how to ask for help, self care...
Blog posts and videos related to early education:
- Tips on Choosing a Preschool: https://bit.ly/2JUIwFi
- Fine Motor Development for Young Children: https://bit.ly/2lnQB6l
- The Importance of Language & Literacy for Young Children: https://bit.ly/2JZ8ner
- 5 Signs Your Child is Learning in Preschool: https://bit.ly/2JOZWmp
- Some Ways to Promote Literacy at Home: https://bit.ly/2ME9wXb
- 8 Tips for Toddlers & Picky Eaters: https://bit.ly/2M4V75n
- 8 Ways to Promote Language in Young Children: https://bit.ly/2ypj5pX
Why are We Like This? (ENFP request; applies to all)
Attachment:
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment https://amzn.to/29uMhue
- Attachment Theory https://bit.ly/2GcJdnN
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs https://bit.ly/2nY3jfd
Cognitive Functions:
- Dave Super Powers https://bit.ly/2LuFl3k
- Personality Hacker https://bit.ly/2JjvsJ3
- Personality Cafe (forum) https://bit.ly/2M9EJ45
Trauma:
- The Body Keeps the Score https://amzn.to/2JFJYdK
- Trauma & Recovery https://amzn.to/2JkIyWC
- The Drama of the Gifted Child https://amzn.to/2kWkgUh
- How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across the Lifetime TED TALK https://bit.ly/1w1DJW5
(not mentioned)
- Eastern Body Western Mind https://amzn.to/2sQyLfB
- Man & His Symbols https://amzn.to/2kXhKx2
- Man's Search for Meaning https://amzn.to/2LzL8EW
- The Highly Sensitive Person https://amzn.to/2sQSITF
- The Artist's Way https://amzn.to/2HwajWf
- Daring Greatly https://amzn.to/2LyRGDz
- Flourish: a Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-Being https://amzn.to/2JuGuXR
- The How of Happiness https://amzn.to/2sFRH1D
- Mindsight https://amzn.to/2LxNbcy
- Bowen Family Systems Theory https://bit.ly/2rRXX74
- Defense Mechanisms (video) https://bit.ly/2LuGiIW
- CBT ABC Model https://bit.ly/2sNOkoD
- Learned Helplessness (+ Cure) https://bit.ly/2uJhOrH
- GRIT (TED Talk) The power of passion and perseverance https://bit.ly/1XBHWfI
- Harvard Working Papers, Child Development https://bit.ly/2Jw0xZx
- Addiction & Codependency https://bit.ly/2sPUHYy
DISCLAIMER: This video and links are for educational purposes only. Please have a professional work with you if seeking therapy or support with mental wellness.
Triangulation (Gossip, Secrets, Ignoring Conflict)
For more information on Bowen Family Systems:
https://thebowencenter.org/theory/eight-concepts/
Benefits of Journaling
The Artist's Way: https://amzn.to/2xSuhLg
The Benefits of Journaling: https://bit.ly/2MpSJWX
CBT Cognitive Triangles & Journaling: https://bit.ly/2tFoaoc
ENFPs (and others) Changing Ideas, Jobs, and Paths
Using my current context to illustrate how ENFPs may be "scattered" by choosing multiple ideas, jobs, and paths in life: we tend to get excited about possibilities and connecting knowledge into something novel. This involves studying and exploring multiple disciplines. To live this way can be concerning for people in our lives because it is not linear or predictable. It can lead to people challenging our life choices and it comes off as harsh. It comes from a place of care because they've seen the rules of the world, and they've seen how hard it can be to live in a way that is not supported by these rules.
It comes down to us questioning how we are living. Are we living our best life? Are we living for our joys or to please others, or avoid criticisms? It is something to consider. *Note: there is nothing wrong with living for others, and for ENFPs there can be this internal struggle with being authentic if and when one chooses to live by their own terms.
To learn how to separate oneself from the opinions and judgments of others can create a stronger sense of inner peace to continue living for oneself. We can honor the care and concerns of others, while also living one's authentic path. Most of the time people worry when they see you worried. Continue following your joy, and over time, it can be that loved ones will learn to accept and adjust to your worldviews, even if they don't truly understand.
Adjusting to Change
Change is difficult. We are creatures seeking comfort with the known and predictable. When it comes to wanting to adopt new habits or behaviors, it's important to try a few things:
- Exposure: The more often we see, hear, or talk about a new goal, the easier it can be to take the next steps.
- Baby steps to reduce unwanted behaviors, or new tiny steps to adopt a new behavior: Identify or envision the end goal. Figure out what the steps to like, and break it down to the tiniest details. See which tiny step you can try here or there to be successful.
- Have people to support you and your context: Honor how hard it is to change. Ask for the encouragement, not complaints for not doing the end goal. Making any progress or sticking with the goal after making mistakes is a big deal!
Video Games & Failure to Launch
I will write a blog post about this later. For now, please listen to some thoughts related to sharing perspective on Video Games & Failure to Launch, some book recommendations, and ways to help your gamer identify and use skills in games to real life.
Book Recommendations:
- Reality is Broken by Jane McGonigal
- Super Better by Jane McGonigal
Things to Consider:
- Thinking about the reasons for why someone would play...
- Has it always been this way? If not, what changed?
- How are games being used by the gamer?
- Is it ann escape, or a way to develop some skills?
- What kinds of skills is this gamer learning from the game?
- Is it a social game where connection is being offered?
- Is it a way to test reality to channel energy or try on a different hat?
- How can we identify the positive and negative skills or coping strategies used in games?
www.organizedmesses.com
Why Therapists or Coaches Ask About Your Health
Quick blurb on why therapists or coaches ask about your health history. Sometimes our physical health affects our emotional and mental well-being. It's important to rule out biological causes as much as possible.
Re: GYPSY & Therapists, Thoughts on Mental Health Stigmas
I mention my reaction to watching the first episode of Gypsy, and talk about how this is not the best representation *at all* of what a therapist is like. Then I talk about mental health stigmas and options when looking for a therapist.
LOL I cursed in this video (only once). I guess it's a big deal to me.
Disclaimer: I am NOT a therapist. I am involved in the mental health community, and have my MA in clinical psychology. Advocating for ethical practice is important to me. Part of this is to speak on poor representations of therapists, and red flags to look for. It's important to find the right-fit or a good-fit therapist for your healing. It's okay to ask for referrals, and sometimes it's okay to reframe a bad experience into learning what doesn't work for you. Ask questions on a therapist's experience. See if you can look at their blog or videos to get a feel for their competence and personality. Your healing is important!
If you are in Orange County, CA and looking for a therapist, please private message our FB page, Orange County Shrinks. We may have a referral or two for you.
